Derek Neary
Northern News Services

Fort Simpson (Nov 01/02) - For some unfortunate children, there's nothing they need more than a safe place to go.

Many of those children not only find refuge in foster homes, they discover the meaning of love.

Dozens of foster parents in the Deh Cho were honoured at a Health and Social Services dinner last Thursday evening.

Isadore and Lucy Simon, of Jean Marie River, were among those lauded. After much thought, they decided to take in Adrian, then nine years old, in March 2001, becoming foster parents for the first time.

The initial months weren't easy, they admit. Their foster son has learning disabilities and requires regular medication. He threw tantrums regularly and refused to learn, Lucy recalled. Adrian also ran away several times. As a mother who has raised four of her own children in a disciplined manner, Lucy said she and Isadore really struggled initially.

"At the beginning we had it tough. We tried to figure out a way to be part of his life, and a make a little change in what he's used to," she said. "The hardest part is over ... he's doing very good in school this year."

Isadore and Lucy's youngest biological son, 14-year-old James, took a shine to his "little brother" early on.

"James said, 'Gee Mom, that's cool, somebody's younger than me,' " Lucy recalled. "I'm glad that there's no jealousy ... (James) knows that this child needs special care and he's getting it."

Isadore said the two boys have their disputes, as all siblings do. Nevertheless, James plays with Adrian, helps him learn and has been known to stick up for him when necessary.

Being fond of travel, Isadore and Lucy usually take their sons along on outings. They made a trip to Edmonton for the Dreamcatchers conference a few weeks ago.

"Adrian had a good time. He enjoyed everything," said Isadore.

The family's warmth and tenderness has reminded Adrian what it means to be cheerful.

"He's improved lots since we've had him ... and he's happy. Some days he's just singing all the time," Isadore said. "I enjoy his company, too."